Bir baba ve oğlu ormanda yürürler. Baba, elinde telefonuyla her şeyin kontrol altında olduğuna inanır. Ne de olsa harita orada, konum orada, dünya avuçlarının içinde. Ama beklenmedik bir şey olur. Telefonun şarjı biter. Harita, konum, dünya elinden kayıp gidiyor nedense.
Küçük oğlan gözlerini babasına çevirir ve sorar: ”Baba, şimdi ne yapacağız?” Baba bir an durur, düşünür, sonra sakin bir sesle cevap verir: “Dümdüz gideceğiz, oğlum. Yolu bulana değin birlikte yürüyeceğiz”.
Getting lost in the woods is like getting lost in life. Most of the time, we give our children a phone, a tablet, thinking they will discover and learn about the world. But without realizing it, we notice those little hands forgetting to reach out to us, those little eyes stopping to look at us and getting fixed on the screen. And worst of all, we forget to look into their world. We lose our way.
Your six-year-old son might arrive like a storm at sixteen. But when that day comes, what will you do if he is not accustomed to talking to you, to walking with you? If his eyes are not seeking paths with you, where will you meet?
The path is a matter of direction. But the journey is a matter of togetherness. To be able to journey with our children, we must first be curious. We must strive to know them, understand them, and walk their paths together. Being curious, exploring together, making eye contact, joining hands…
Sometimes we must stop and ask ourselves this question:
- How do I truly see my child? (Without judgment)
- Can I watch his path through screens?
The path is important, and so is your destination. But the real issue is who we walk with.
Before we lose our children, we must first find our own way. Perhaps everything starts with a step. Looking at our child, not the phone, and being curious about them. Approaching their world with curiosity. Because when we are lost, it is those little hands walking with us that truly guide the way.